Lalyet panch varshani,dash varshani tadyet |.
PrapttuShodashevarshe putram mitrawadacharet
"लालयेत् पञ्च वर्षाणि दश वर्षाणि ताडयेत् / प्राप्ते तु षोडशे वर्षे पुत्रं मित्रवदाचरेत् "//]
It is easy for any parent to be mesmerized and
naturally fall in love with their new born child and forget that children while
bringing immense joy to our worlds do come with a responsibility for the
parents. I am sure every parent out there knows how difficult parenting can be!
Some parents start worrying about teaching
discipline to their child at age 2 while some think it is too early to teach
discipline as the child is still a baby to their eye, but by the time they are grown
up, it’s too late to teach anything.
Most of us depend on what we learn from our own
parents and some of us these days resort to search engines to find parenting advice. In
this regard, this ancient Sanskrit Shloka give us some insight into different
stages of a child’s growth and what and how should a parent support and nurture
their well-being.
Shloka Meaning:
"Lalyet panch varshani"
First five years of parenting, Indulge- allow
oneself to enjoy the pleasure of parenting the kid.
“Dash varshani tadyet”
For the next 10 years - keep an eye, teach
discipline.
“PrapttuShodashevarshe putram
mitrawadacharet”
From 16 years - Friendship. Make friends with
your child
It doesn’t mean that you have to wait until
they turn 5 to start teaching the kids. It tells us to enjoy parenting while
teaching the children right things at right age and not worry too much or too
less.
But no matter what is taught to them, Parents
are the role model for the kids, they pick things easily from the parents. So,
if you are not punctual but want to teach punctuality to your kids, it’s NOT
going to happen, you have to be punctual first to teach the same to your kids.
In today’s competitive world, It has become
more important for the parents to not just
teach their children how to be successful in achieving their goals/career but
also teach them moral values to bring them up as a responsible person for the society
while standing up for themselves in harsh living conditions.
Listed
below are some of the important values I think that every kid needs to be
taught by the parents in the daily life.
- Faith, Believe in God
- Discipline
- Show up on time
- Manners, Respect for others
- Empathy
- Love
- Dignity of labor
- Commitment- Complete the work you take
and stick to your word.
- Express feelings
- How to handle success and failure
- How to handle finances
- Reading books
- Take a break from time to time and enjoy
nature
- Arts and crafts
- To pursue things even if they are afraid
- To be themselves and stand up for
themselves
- Live and Let live , Forgive and
Forget
- Passion
- Focus
- Curiosity (Nurture the curiosity
that's innate in every child)
- Cooking
- Importance of health.
While there are many
articles/blogs talking about how to raise the kids, I thought of voicing my
opinion too. If this helps someone, at least one, it would make my day.
Please feel free to add
your thoughts/ideas/opinion in the comments.
